She's pregnant. You're shocked.

Here are some guidelines by Focus on the Family to help you through this unexpected time of confusion and heartache.

"I'm Pregnant."

When your daughter first breaks the news to you,

     You may feel:     Shock

                                   Disappointment

                                   Embarrassment

     You may think:   "Her life is shattered. Our lives    are ruined."

                                   "All of her (and our!) hope, dreams and plans are threatened."

Perspective Check

It's not good news. It's also not the end of the world.  Remember to:

      Stay calm.

      Avoid assigning blame or condemning.

      Focus on the positive.  (She could have chose abortion.)

      Show grace and mercy as Jesus would (even when it is the toughest!)

Step Into Her Shoes

Understand her fears. She is probably overwhelmed.

       Feeling like she has lost your love and confidence.

       Feeling alone and needing a support team.

       Wondering what her options are.

        Facing a future she hadn't planned.

Step Up

Be an asset to your daughter by:

        Reassuring her of your unconditional love and confidence.

        Affirming your confidence in her.

        Trusting God whole-heartedly.

Simply Say It

She can't read your mind.  You need to speak the words.

         "I still love you. No matter what.."

         "I'm here for you and will help you in whatever way I can."

         "You do have options." (marriage, adoption, single-parenting, evening college courses, etc.)

         "Some people will look down on you. Many others will extend their compassion".

         "You are ultimately accountable to God, not to people."

         "You will have a whole lifetime ahead of you.  This one mistake doesn't need to destroy your

          bright future."